Wanting to forgive and being ready to forgive are two completely different things — and both are valid. Forgiveness cannot be forced or rushed. It arrives when the wound has been truly honoured, not suppressed or skipped over.
You don't have to perform forgiveness before you feel it. You just have to stay honest — with yourself and, when safe, with the other person — about where you actually are.
Before you keep reading — what do you think you need to happen before you'll be ready to forgive?
Built exactly for this question:
Before you move on — what's one thing that's true for you right now?
"Forgiveness is not a performance. It is an arrival. And arrivals cannot be scheduled — only prepared for."
Every question, eventually, leads here.
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