When a small problem triggers a big argument, it's almost always because unresolved things are stacking underneath. The dishes aren't just about the dishes — they're about all the times you felt unimportant, unseen, or alone.
The stack is what explodes. The Check-in Cycle's AFTER phase helps you clear the stack — so that small problems can stay small.
Before you keep reading — what is the "everything" that your arguments tend to collapse into?
Built exactly for this question:
Before you move on — what's one thing that's true for you right now?
"The small argument is not the problem. The small argument is the messenger. Listen to what it's really carrying."
Every question, eventually, leads here.
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